“Peace on Earth begins with birth.” – Jeanine Parvati Baker
The word ‘doula‘ is the Greek word for ‘slave’ and understandably there is an aversion to this word by Greek people who prefer the word ”paramana’ as it is synonymous with ‘midwife‘. However, the word has caught on and is now widely used and accepted with positive connotations.
Birthkeeper is a term coined by Jeannine Parvati Baker, marrying the terms Earth Keeper (eco-activist and holders of the sacred Earth-based wisdom) and Birth Worker (doula, midwife, etc), thus meaning a birth activist and keeper of the sacred wisdom of birth. The space that we enter during labour is indeed one of knowing, mystery, grounding, higher connection, letting go, vulnerability, power, ending and beginning…everything.
My job is all about you, the baby and your partner (if you have one) to ensure that your childbirth is as positive an experience as possible.
I give it all with an open mind and an open heart. No matter what decisions you make in your pregnancy, birth and life, as long as you have been accurately informed and make decisions that you feel are the right ones, I will support you all the way to help you have the best birth experience you can. That’s what is most important, no matter what the circumstances.
I want to empower you, to make you have confidence in yourself, reassure you about your instinctive ability to give birth, help you make fully informed choices and respect your desires.
My support is non-medical. I’ll be there for you to on the emotional and practical side of things. I spend time with you antenatally, getting to know you and your family and as your constant contact and companion during your labour and birth, I will do my utmost to keep you calm, reduce any anxiety you may have by ensuring you feel cared for emotionally and physically without feeling observed or judged when at your most vulnerable. We are a team and as well as all of the above, I am there to help with massaging, breathing, encouraging different positions to help with an active labour. I am also there as your advocate and to help reinforce your birth preference and what you feel is most important to you during this time.
Though it is my job to ‘mother the mother’, I naturally appreciate the importance and significance of husbands/partners and am always happy to help with any concerns and questions they may have.
My philosophy is that you and your baby are most important. You should trust your instinct and go with what feels right for you. I am there to support and care for you. Women have given birth since the beginning of time – they are strong and their bodies are amazing. So are you.
You can choose any of my two (2) packages:
Includes all the above plus:
For both packages I am:
This is quite rare… but if circumstances are beyond my control to be physically present, I will send a wonderful, experienced backup doula to be with you in your labour. If I’m able to relieve her at some point I will.
Meet the back up team: London Bliss Doulas
Shared-Care Birth Doula Package – £1,850 / £2,200
I offer this package if you’d like us to work together but I am not fully available for the on-call period of 38 to 42 weeks (and beyond if baby chooses a birthday past this range)
This means that you will have two doulas looking after you and have the advantage of calling on the expertise of two doulas from the moment you decide to work with us. We have worked together since the beginning of our doula careers and complement each other very well.
It will be me and either of my doula partners, Michaela or Thando. You will get to know both of us as we share the antenatal sessions (one with both of us and one each, 3 in total) and we will share the on-call period giving you the peace of mind that one of us will be with you when you call us to your labour. You will see both of us postnatally too regardless of who is with you during labour and birth.
The majority of doulas are employed directly by their clients while others may choose to volunteer. The Doula UK Access Fund provides free birth and postnatal doulas to women in need and works with women’s refuges to ensure vulnerable women are supported as they become mothers. There are a small number of NHS-employed doulas and a number of voluntary schemes.
“Alexa has been an angel since pregnancy, but especially during birth and post-birth. I feel she is the mother of the mothers. 🙂 During pregnancy her massages helped me relax and disconnect from any pre birth anxiety. The work she does with rebozo is very traditional and has certainly affected the position of baby and facilitated birth. We also did a couples’ workshop and a meditation to prepare for the birth – both were very important to keep oxytocin levels high. During labour she was a friend, sister and mother – everything you need a doula to be. We’ve made a beautiful natural scan painting together and she kept me relaxed with her blessed hands and rebozo. On top of all this, she managed to make the most beautiful images of my daughter’s birth. It was a water birth at home and thanks to Alexa, I have incredible photos and videos of such important moment. Post-birth her closing of the bones ceremony was all I needed to deeply connect with the rite of birth and welcome my new life as a mother of two. This ceremony includes a beautiful bath with herbs and a home made temazcal that awaked all my chakras. Her womb massage was very healing post-birth. She also helped us to make a beautiful ritual of burning the cord and I am now benefiting from her placenta remedies. It is difficult to put in words what all this work meant to me. I will be forever thankful for all the care and love she offered to me and my family. She helped us all to overcome many fears and helped me especially to better connect with my strength as women.” – Fe, April 2021
“Having Alexa was a true gift during the pregnancy and birth. We found working with Alexa empowering and truly supportive. Her dedication, wisdom and knowledge coupled with her experience helped us immensely. I hope particularly appreciated her classes which also has a fun element to it! Dancing to Bob Marley will always be a memory that makes me smile” – Tina, March 2021
“Meeting Alexa has completely transformed my experience of pregnancy and the delivery of our little girl! I came across Alexa’s pregnancy yoga classes after trying a couple of other classes. Her style is the perfect combination of dynamic flows and joyful moving meditation and dances to connect with your growing bump. Alexa creates a safe space to also share your mood, questions, concerns or just your experience of pregnancy during the check in at the start of every class. I’ve been looking forward to each class and always left feeling energised and empowered that I could safely birth my baby. Meeting Alexa completely changed my outlook on how I wanted to give birth and we ended up asking her to be our doula and to be with us during the delivery. This is the best decision we ever made. Along the way Alexa shared with us lots of insights on the birthing process and on our options to help us think about our birth plan. On the day she’s been absolutely amazing, strong, comforting, calming for both myself and my partner. We stayed home as much as possible dealing with the growing surges and arrived right on time at the hospital to deliver our baby girl Violette in the pool to the sound of Bob Marley thanks to Alexa’s playlist! I can’t recommend enough to try Alexa’s classes!” – Stephanie, June 2020
“Alexa has the most nurturing, supportive and maternal vibration to her – I’m so grateful that she was able to be my doula. The generosity with which she tended to mine and my family’s needs was so touching. She helped my 6 year old daughter to feel a part of the process and even gave her a massage on one of her visits to our home. Throughout my pregnancy I felt her presence in exactly the right degree. I attended her antenatal yoga class every Sunday, and she visited me often to check in – there was a lot of emotional support, as well as physically helping to prepare my body for birth, including some baby turning techniques. When it came to birthtime, it was 2.5 days from waters breaking until baby Ayo arrived, and Alexa was with me the whole time. She was incredibly intuitive and respectful to my needs. When I needed support, she was close by. When I needed to be alone, she gave me space. Her attention to detail, communication with the hospital staff and her tireless safeguarding of my experience, allowed me to focus on and enjoy bringing my baby earth side. Thank you sister for being such a crucial part of our story 💖” – Nikita, January 2020
“Alexa was an immense help in both planning for, and then going through with, the birth of my daughter. Prior to meeting up with Alexa I was not very informed or prepared at all about the whole process due to having a very busy job and being single, and as such feeling a little uneasy about everything. However Alexa was incredibly calm and understanding and ensured that I really was thoroughly prepared both practically and psychologically. When it came to giving birth Alexa arrived at my house the moment I needed her, got me to hospital (there’s no way I’d have made it there without her), and stayed with me for many many hours to welcomed my daughter into the world. In short I would have been totally lost without Alexa, and can’t thank her enough for making it as positive and “normal” a process as possible. Alexa is clearly very passionate about and incredibly knowledgable on the wellbeing and happiness of women and babies, but also of families overall and humans in general. She is a truly wonderful woman.” – Rebecca, March 2015
“Alexa made my pregnancy and birth experience smoother and happier. I enjoyed her yoga sessions a lot. Her advise on pregnancy and labour was really useful, and her support during the birth was amazing: she helped me manage the pain, think positive and laugh plus took some amazing pictures which we are very happy to have. I would recommend having her around to any mum to be!” – Andrea, July 2014