“Peace on Earth begins with birth.” – Jeanine Parvati Baker
My job is all about you, the baby and your partner (if you have one) to ensure that your childbirth is as positive an experience as possible.
I give it all with an open mind and an open heart. No matter what decisions you make in your pregnancy, birth and life, as long as you have been accurately informed and make decisions that you feel are the right ones, I will support you all the way to help you have the best birth experience you can. That’s what is most important, no matter what the circumstances.
I want to empower you, to make you have confidence in yourself, reassure you about your instinctive ability to give birth, help you make fully informed choices and respect your desires.
My support is non-medical. I’ll be there for you to on the emotional and practical side of things. I spend time with you antenatally, getting to know you and your family and as your constant contact and companion during your labour and birth, I will do my utmost to keep you calm, reduce any anxiety you may have by ensuring you feel cared for emotionally and physically without feeling observed or judged when at your most vulnerable. We are a team and as well as all of the above, I am there to help with massaging, breathing, encouraging different positions to help with an active labour. I am also there as your advocate and to help reinforce your birth preference and what you feel is most important to you during this time.
Though it is my job to ‘mother the mother’, I naturally appreciate the importance and significance of husbands/partners and am always happy to help with any concerns and questions they may have.
My philosophy is that you and your baby are most important. You should trust your instinct and go with what feels right for you. I am there to support and care for you. Women have given birth since the beginning of time – they are strong and their bodies are amazing. So are you.
After the birth:
It would be great if you could attend my weekly pregnancy yoga classes. This way we can really build up a relationship of familiarity.
This is quite rare… but if circumstances are beyond my control to be physically present, I will send a wonderful, experienced backup doula to be with you in your labour. If I’m able to relieve her at some point I will.
Meet the back up team: London Bliss Doulas
The majority of doulas are employed directly by their clients while others may choose to volunteer. The Doula UK Access Fund provides free birth and postnatal doulas to women in need and works with women’s refuges to ensure vulnerable women are supported as they become mothers. There are a small number of NHS-employed doulas and a number of voluntary schemes.
“Alexa made my pregnancy and birth experience smoother and happier. I enjoyed her yoga sessions a lot. Her advise on pregnancy and labour was really useful, and her support during the birth was amazing: she helped me manage the pain, think positive and laugh plus took some amazing pictures which we are very happy to have. I would recommend having her around to any mum to be!” – Andrea, July 2014
“Alexa was an immense help in both planning for, and then going through with, the birth of my daughter. Prior to meeting up with Alexa I was not very informed or prepared at all about the whole process due to having a very busy job and being single, and as such feeling a little uneasy about everything. However Alexa was incredibly calm and understanding and ensured that I really was thoroughly prepared both practically and psychologically. When it came to giving birth Alexa arrived at my house the moment I needed her, got me to hospital (there’s no way I’d have made it there without her), and stayed with me for many many hours to welcomed my daughter into the world. In short I would have been totally lost without Alexa, and can’t thank her enough for making it as positive and “normal” a process as possible. Alexa is clearly very passionate about and incredibly knowledgable on the wellbeing and happiness of women and babies, but also of families overall and humans in general. She is a truly wonderful woman.” – Rebecca, March 2015